Is His Cheating Ways Really His Fault?

I have always believed that we are ultimately responsible for our actions and the repercussions that come with a thoughless act. To me, cheating is not a forgiveable sin and there is no excuse for this type of behavior that can cause your partner a lot of emotional heartache, sleepless nights and constant self-doubt.

“Is it me?
Is it because I didn’t pay enough attention to him?
Is it something I said? Something I didn’t say?
I squeezed the wrong side of the toothpaste?

What…. What…. Just tell me and I’ll fix it. Just don’t go.”

I could sit here all day and over analyze what could have prevented him from straying.

I could sit here all day and think of all the things I could have done better.

I could sit here all day and waste time that I don’t have on a man that’s not worth another minute of thought.

But, what if it really isn’t his fault? What if, just like we can’t control the color of our skin or the color of our eyes, his actions are a product of a his genetic coding … one that’s gone very wrong somewhere along the way.

“hi my name is sharon. if you have the AVPR1A 334 allele mutation, i’m not interested.”

Medical researchers have discovered that The AVPR1A gene contains a brain hormone (protein) that directly affects monogamy. “Homozygosity in allele 334 of RS3 is associated in men (but not women) with problems with pair-bonding behavior, measured by traits such as partner bonding, perceived marital problems, marital status, as well as spousal perception of marital quality.” – Wikipedia.

Two out of five men carry this gene variant.

It has been documented in several studies that men carrying one or two of copies of the 334 allele version are less likely to be married or will be scored lower by their partners for the strength of the relationship. Men that carry two copies are likely to be twice more inclined to have a marital crisis and sexual dissatisfaction in a monogamous commitment.

Sure…. genetics play a big role in who we are today but is this enough reason to come up with another excuse to hide behind instead of confronting the real issue. Men have a choice. They have a choice to be faithful to their partners, just like they have a choice to cheat.

Why should we accept their bad judgement as our responsibility?

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