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ME: “ummm….. fine. Should I not like it?”
It kind of reminds me of the time I turned 30, and then 31, and then 32, and then 33…. my younger friends will continue to ask “so, how does it feel to be over 30?”.
ME: “ask me when I turn 40. I should know by then how I feel about being 30 then.”
It’s still the same me. I still do the same things. Go to the same places. Eat the same food. Participate in the same social events. OK, so maybe you won’t catch me in a bar as often as when i was single, but aside from that nothing really has changed for me. Should I feel any different?
It wasn’t until over the weekend that I realized I was totally missing the point of this question.
A good friend *of the male species* enlightened me that there will be no more coffees, no more dinners, or no more talks in the middle of the night about mundane things because I am married.
Well, if that isn’t the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard!
And now that I think of it, it’s not even a question anymore of “should married women have male friends”, it’s more of “married women are shunned by their single male friends”.
Why is that? Maybe someone out there can enlighten me why we all can’t stay friends?
Marriage isn’t just a bubble with two people in it. Why can’t there be room enough for good friends, male or female? It just doesn’t make sense.
Who made these crappy rules anyway?
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So ironically true! As though there is such a big difference between 30 and 31, 32, 33 etc. I think it’s just part of many cultures to ask the, “So how does it feel” questions.
Is it ridiculous to be questioned as to why we shouldn’t have opposite sex friends when we are married? Yes, it is. But again, it probably comes from the mind set of, “Ball and chain” that is associated with marriage. As though we are slaves to our partners lol
I have never found that being married stopped me doing anything I wanted to. It certainly hasn’t stopped me seeing friends of either sex.
I love my marriage. We are best friends and are always coming up with interesting ideas, together.
Married life to me is good, as I am not bound by those limitation as what others think, I still have my own space for doing my little little things and socialize with others.
In fact life after married is wonderful!
Life after married is wonderful for me as I don’t bind by what others might think, as I still have my own space to do my own things.
Same for me… I love married life and it never stopped me from doing things with friends that I wanted to do.
As for the “how does it feel to be…” questions, I’m always tempted to break down with a faux cry and start complaining what’s wrong with my new age. Bet they wouldn’t ask again.
In my case the article is quite wrong, marriage has been a liberating experince. I still have many male friends and it is easier to be mates because people don’t assume that you are interested in anything more than just mates.
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