Comments on: Serial Cheaters – Are They Worth The Time?

By: Sagemother

Sagemother — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 16:43:13 +0000

“Insecurity” and “low self esteem” are handy labels to use when trying to protect one’s self from the pain of dealing with a serial cheater. The terms paint the cheater as a flaws human and make the offended person feel better, but in the end, some people just aren’t monogamous.

Their insecurities and low self esteem is what drives them into repeated attempts at monogamy, IMHO.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 16:58:13 +0000

you fall in love with them and don’t want to live without them. 75% of men cheat. out of the other 25% a lot are already married or not compatible. 60% of women cheat. try couples therapy, put up with it or leave are the only options. it’s not low self esteem if you choose to love someone even though they have cheated. the cheater usually loves their spouse. there may be good things about the relationship that are worth staying with them and trying to salvage the relationship.

By: debrajean

debrajean — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 20:36:10 +0000

“serial cheaters are men who are insecure and need constant reassurance that their manhood is potent”
Yeah, that just about sums it up. I knew a man just like that. I let him “reassure” himself w/me for years, b4 “re-assessing” and then had to “reassure” myself that I could do much better.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 16:26:40 +0000

Katharina, we just have to accept that some things…. or people…. don’t and can’t change.

We either learn to live with it or walk away.

Like one of my girlfriends use to say to me – *if you put up with it, don’t come crying to me because I don’t want to hear it*.

By: Katharina

Katharina — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 13:16:39 +0000

I agree that some things just aren’t going to work and often people think (in retrospect) that a certain change would have made some kind of difference.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:37:05 +0000

Katharina, I know I probably think differently than most, and I won’t be surprised if most women don’t agree with me…. but I think that is one of the biggest downfall of our gender.

There is always that need to change something and we will give it so much time to make it change. And when things don’t go as planned, we always say *if only I can change this and things will be much better*.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:25:50 +0000

Trick-r-treat, I’d like to be a fly on the wall when that happens!

LOL! Karma has a way of biting people in the *ass* for all the bad things they’ve done!

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 19:38:30 +0000

Katharina, I believe in karmic fate and if you are not with the person you are meant to be. You will end up leaving him *or her* for someone else.

However, a roving eye for the eye candies I can’t stand. Now, those, never just change overnight.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 00:00:42 +0000

Jewel, serial cheaters are quite different from those partners who fell into temptation at one time.

And it doesn’t sound like yours fall into that pattern.

You must know men you just know you won’t touch with a 10 foot pole because they have done so many *bad* bad things.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 09:42:05 +0000

Trick-r-treat, yes, that can be true to some extent.

But to think of all the depression that goes with thinking that way and knowing that your husband is off somewhere with another woman.

That would just kill me!