The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) has been studying the patterns of violence and has concluded that it is a serious, yet preventable, public health problem affecting more than 10% of the US population:
“Violence is a significant problem in the United States (U.S.). From infants to the elderly, it affects people in all stages of life. In 2004, 17,357 people died as a result of homicide and 32,439 took their own life. The number of violent deaths tells only part of the story. Many more survive violence and are left with permanent physical and emotional scars.”
In the US alone, about 20 percent of all violent crimes experienced by women are cases of intimate partner violence and over a million women report being stalked each year. The National Organization for Women reports that our gender is ten times more likely than men to be victimized, and at least four women a day die at the hands of their husbands or boyfriends.
JUVIA SMITH, FAITH BELVINS, JILL DEAN, PATRICIA ROTHERMICH, SHERRIE CONNER, YULIANA H. HERNANDEZ, THERESA HICKS, LAYLA R. BANKS, ESTHER KINYANJUI, KIMBERLY HALLMAN, LATRICIA PEOPLES, SARA R.A, DORIS SHAVERS, AMY COMLY, LANICEYA M. WALKER, SUSAN MOULDER
These names might not mean anything to you …. but for the families they have left behind, the grief is all too real. Battered and murdered, these are just some the faceless names of women who have died because of domestic abuse in the last 30 days. As we observe Domestic Awareness Month, let us mourn those who have died, celebrate those who have survived, and help play an important role to help others escape the cycle of abuse.
Laws alone are not enough. We need to help spread the word to others that abuse is not part of love and there is assitsance available. Please take the time to email a copy of this article to five of your closest friends or submit it to social bookmarking sites by clicking the icons at the end of the post.
CREATING A SAFETY PLAN
You do not have control over your partner’s behavior, but you do have a choice about how to respond. It is very difficult to decide to leave a relationship and seek safety either with someone you know or in a domestic violence shelter. It might take several attempts before you can permanently leave. And once you decide that leaving is in your best interest, you still need to cope with the emotional, physical, and financial issues that arise. Read More at Safe Horizon
COVER YOUR TRACKS
A partner can often tell when a woman makes up her mind to stop the abuse. Do not underestimate your partner. Cover Your Tracks. WARNING! Your computer or your telephone may keep records that could betray you! Read More at Interval House
SELF DEFENSE TIPS FOR WOMEN - PREPARING FOR DANGEROUS SITUATIONS
You can prepare against different threats by practicing how to quickly reach the objects and how to use those effectively and safely…. Before using or even practicing these techniques, please read and understand my notice to avoid getting into legal difficulties. Read More at Mental-Health-Today.com
TOUR A DOMESTIC SHELTER
Join us as we go from room to room. Hear the voices of women who have sought shelter with Safe Horizon, see pictures inside of a shelter, and find answers to the questions that battered women entering a shelter might ask. Read More at Safe Horizon
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE - US
Until the violence stops, the hotline will continue to answer…One Call at a Time. Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 140 languages through interpreter services. If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224. Read More at National Domestic Violence Hotline
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGENCIES: CANADA
Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Newfoundland & Labrador, Northwest Territories, Nova Scotia, Nunavut, Ontario, Prince Edward Island, Quebec, Saskatchewan, Yukon, St Pierre Et Miquelon. Read More at Hot Peach Pages
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HELP BY COUNTRY
International Inventory of Domestic Violence Services from countries A-Z. We have lists for 191 out of the approximately 194 independent sovereign states, and for 39 out of the approximately 45 disputed or dependent inhabited states. Read More at Hot Peach Pages
THE STALKING VICTIM’S SANCTUARY
America has been hit with an escalating crisis it doesn’t know how to handle. Across the country, hundreds of thousands of people have fallent victim to individuals who have obsessively focused on them. The phenomenon is called stalking. And once you’ve been a victim, you’ll know how life-destroying this can be. Read More at StalkingVictims.com
ADD A RESOURCE
We have lost so many to Domestic Violence. If you have a resource to add on Domestic Violence, please feel free to leave the link in the comment section of this post. Blog posts are also welcome.
LIGHT A CANDLE AND HELP US REMEMBER
If you have a story to tell about a personal experience, please tell us about it. We will be featuring several stories about Domestic Violence during the month of October and November.
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Great article! I hope it helps someone out who reads it. Good job.
Thank you for these information Sharon, I didn’t know all these stats before, and they really sound horrible.
Even though I am not from/at the States, but I feel concerned.
Lalla Mira, research says that it’s even worse in other countries because there are more abuse that is not reported.
I believe the Help By Country has resources for Morocco.
It’s so sad isn’t it?
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Thanks for posting this. I remember watching a short documentary where the leader of a group was instructing the men to beat their wives if they did not have food ready when they came home. That really made me angry. I cannot remember the country where that was running.
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Thanks for posting this!
As we speak, I am actually watching the movie Enough with Jennifer Lopez. It shows her and her daughter trying to get away from her emotionally and physically abusive husband. I haven’t seen the end yet, but the ways in which it shows her abused are so disturbing. I am saddened that this is a regular occurrence in some homes.
Opal, that is absolutely absurd! In Vancouver, we are experiencing a rise of deaths related to cultural problems and particular culture.
It’s really so sad when you pick up the newspaper and you realize that your pregnant friend is missing and that her husband is the prime suspect when they find her burned body. It just makes me want to cry….
Jewel, a lot of psychos are out there. I remember watching the same film, and there is another one by Julia Roberts that was also very good. I just forgot the name.
Isn’t the one with Julia Roberts called Sleeping With the Enemy?
Anyway, I almost cried just reading the words in the video. The music may have played a part. At the end credit I realized it was Amazing Grace, which I liked listening to as a child.
The statistics may be so far removed from how much violence actually occurs out there, as a lot of them goes unreported. Verbal abuse goes in the office as well. The problem sometimes is that what is abusive for one may not be considered abusive by another. It is just so relative.
I remember a friend of mine talking about how he was sexually abused while sleeping. He pretended to continue to sleep. When he was sure he was left all alone, he left the house and everything he got and never went back.
I actually have a friend that could use this information. Thank you so much for posting it. I think she just needs to know that she is not alone in this. I know at times she feels like she is alone and no one understands.
I think that keeping this in the news is a great idea. Awareness needs to be kept at all times and not just during the month set aside for it… it’s so widespread.
I was glad to see a hotline listed as well as how to create a safety plan… good info.
For a while there were safehouses here where abused women and their children could seek shelter. I think lack of funds has closed most of them which is truly a shame.
I have seen a couple of shelters here in the Los Angeles area, which I am glad to have here. I remember staying at one when I was very young with my mom, but who knows if that one still exists.
Beatrix, we still have this social stigma of not wanting to tell anyone or report anyone that is abusive to us. I don’t care if it’s physical, verbal, or what kind of other crap. Abuse is abuse, and there is no sugar coating it.
Sorry to hear about your friend.
Tater03, I hope you passed it on to your friend.
It’s hard to think sometimes that there are so many other woman out there who could be in the same situation. There is help for everyone who reaches out for it.
SageMother, lack of funding is always going to be an issue regarding safehouses. I know that one of these safehouses in Vancouver was instrumental in getting my girlfriend and her two kids out of a very abusive relationship. And she hasn’t looked back since.
Jewel, I dug around the net to get a list of women’s shelters in LA. Here’s a good resource - http://www.artistshelpingchildren.org/shelters.html#california
ON top of the stigma of admitting to living with abuse comes the financial uncertainty. I imagine that is a major factor when women choose to stay in or return to an abusive relationship.
SageMother, a lot of women actually stay in a relationship because of financial uncertainty. Especially when they have kids.
But sometimes, they really need to step back, and start thinking about the impact the abuse is having on the children.
Easier said, than done. I know. I just hope that the second step won’t be as hard as the first step out.
You are so right that alot of people stay in a abusive relationship because of financial reasons. That is the main reason my friend states on why she stays. What is hard though is what it is doing to the kids. I can see it being on the outside. Just wish she could see it.
Tater03, and to think this still happens in our modern society where options are freely available that weren’t before.
I would understand if my grandmother was in the same position, but in today’s world, it’s so sad to look in and see what’s happening to your friend.
My name is Ethel I am a survivor of domestic violence, I was a victim for fourteen years until one day I decided to take my life back.I left but not before going through hell and high water he kicked me,slapped me,spit on me, and pulled a gun on me. I recently wrote a book titled NO MORE RAIN (in this cloud.I will be more than happy to tell my story to anyone who wants to hear it,so please log onto lrw@publicist.com look forward to hearing from you!
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